There are about a million articles online that motivate you to fight the challenges and encourage you to keep working harder. A million people advise you on how to handle the problems in your life. But I’m asking you to do just the opposite; to take the step back and let everything be for a while.
In the last two years, there have been many times when I reached, what seemed like, a dead end. Every time, I would approach my close friends or family for their advice. And every time, they would have the same replies;
“You need to try harder!”
“Stay strong and fight your weaknesses.”
“Get up and don’t ever give up.”
They weren’t wrong, but I had to decide if I needed to put myself through that misery. I always believed that giving up was a waste of time and effort. It was only after taking a four-month break from university, I realized that I was trying to push myself into something that I was not ready for. Whenever I went through a difficult path, I felt the need to stay on it and ‘ride the storm out’. I didn’t stop to ask, ‘but why?’
Why do I have to do it?
Why can’t I step back?
Why is it so wrong to give myself a break?
It’s not a substitute or an alternative to hard work. It’s not about being lazy or undetermined. It’s about acknowledging the fact that you’re not okay with a situation in your life. It’s about taking the time to figure things out and realize that by giving up, you don’t become a failure.
So, it’s okay to want to quit. There is no point of rushing, or to keep going on, if the only person you need to catch up with is you.